Okay, my clients trust me in their spaces, with their “stuff”, and with their stories. I’m going to share my story (a little bit of vulnerability) and tell you why I am able to understand and help others let go and in a compassionate way. Here’s my story:
To some extent I can understand some of my clients’ struggles regarding an attachment to things. We assign memories to things and emotions to those memories. There is the judging of importance that a thing may hold. For some, there is the guilt that comes when the person begins to think about getting rid of something. They might be conflicted about its real or perceived value. Some individuals wonder, what if I need it later? Some are burdened by the concept of waste from a financial and/or environmental perspective. The latter is sure that everything can be reused and re-purposed.
This brings me to my personal situation and the recognition (not judging) of my struggle. It is the story of my sheets! One of the first significant purchases that I made when I moved was a new bed and luxurious linens. They made me feel like I was in a cocoon of comfort, and on a blank canvas that no one else had marked. This bed represented the start of a new chapter of my life. All of this happened many years ago and I was immersed in this magical thinking. It was such a strongly held belief that even when the cruel truth of betrayal was revealed, I could not view the material things as just a bed and old, worn linens. I was in denial and focused on my fears…how could I afford, or justify spending a lot of money on new linens. How could I settle for lesser quality? I ignored the fact that it was just material that held no power, emotion or history unless I chose to attach those things to them!
So I do understand and appreciate what some of my clients tell me during our work together. Each of our stories are different and equally important. I also know that when you are able to let go of the stuff, the letting go might not have the impact that you are expecting. Some people celebrate the release and unburdening. Some feel shame at having put so much false importance into the items. For some it is anti-climatic. Be gentle with yourself. Observe your feelings and try not to be self critical. Try letting go of less emotionally charged items, first. Let your Organizer take the item and hold them for an agreed period of time and decide then.