Is your life disorganized, or are you disorganizing your life?
As your Professional Organizer, let’s talk about situational disorganization versus permanent disorganization. If your life is disorganized as a result of significant change(s), whether sudden or expected, you may be experiencing situational disorganization. Major life transitions can cause disruption even for the most organized individual. These transitions may be positive or negative in nature. Are you experiencing (or expecting) any of these positive transitions:
- Expanded family such as an aging parent, return of an adult child, or the birth of a child.
- Getting married and merging households.
- Decreasing family size, including becoming an empty-nesters.
- Downsizing and selling a home.
- Remodeling a home or office.
- A relocation, career change or a promotion.
Are you trying to cope with stressful negative change(s) such as:
- Loss, for instance, a death, a family member with Dementia or Alzheimer’s, or divorce.
- Loss of a employment.
- A natural or man-made disaster.
- Illness, injury or a temporary disability.
Situational disorganization can cause mental, emotional, physical and financial hardship. It requires a change in many of the systems you used for organizing and time management that were effective before the new situation occurred. A thorough assessment of your new needs will help you devise a well thought out action plan and provide great relief.
On the other hand, you may be disorganizing your life because of a more permanent or long-standing situation. There is NO fault or blame, rather, the solutions require different strategies and supports. Permanent disorganization necessitates a longer term perspective including ongoing maintenance and reevaluation of the systems that provide relief. The benefits of organizing can alleviate the overwhelm and stress that permanent disorganization situations elicit. These situations may include:
- Long term illnesses that limit mobility, access, strength, balance or memory.
- Chronic conditions such as mental health disorders, including post traumatic stress disorder, or learning and behavioral disorders.
Don’t stay overwhelmed or paralyzed. The 1 at-a-time rule is critical to your success. Sit down, take a deep breath and begin to relax. Make a list of your priorities. Now realistically identify which ones you don’t have to do at all and purge those from your list. After that, identify some of the remaining tasks that you listed that you could delegate to someone else. Lastly, review the remaining tasks and identify only the 2-3 most important and time sensitive priorities that you can begin to do. Remember that becoming organized and staying organized is a process. Allow yourself time, patience, and trust that you can do it with the right supports.